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 I'm a planner, I always have been.  Mike is coming up on orders very shortly, and so for most of the 8 months prior to our wedding he will be living somewhere else.  He won't be coming back to where I am until probably 2 or 3 days before the wedding because he wants to have the majority of his leave after the wedding.  My question is, is there anywhere that I could find a checklist of what a new army wife would have to do before she joins her husband at his current duty station?  And of those things is there anything that I can do prior to the wedding?  Like can he request a movers appoint before we are actually married, or does that have to wait until we are actually wed.  Do I have to get my military ID at his duty station or can we go to the closest military base to get it?  I'm WAYYYYY OCD and I'm aware of that.  lol.  I'm just nervous about doing all of this by myself, and if I focus on this I won't freak to much about the wedding itself right now.  Ha.  My mom told me that there is already a lot to do after a marriage, and I'm sure that being a military spouse just adds to things!  

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knightswifee
Dec. 3rd, 2007 02:24 am (UTC)
If I can find the websites that I used to have, I'll send them your way. Though one thing when I first moved to Hawaii to be with Erin after we got married.. in the base newspaper, I saw an Army Wives 101 class.. definitely I recommend that you take that once you get there and all. You can definitely learn a lot :)

Have you gone to CinCHouse http://www.cinchouse.com/home.asp Its from the book "Married to the Military" I recommend on getting that book :)
jennelise83
Dec. 3rd, 2007 03:06 am (UTC)
I found some websites. But all the ones i've found so far are for current military wives. Not soon-to-be ones. I wish there marrying into the military something. lol. What do you know about the moving appt? Can he schedule it before we actually get married? This is going to be the longest 8 mos of my life. lol.
knightswifee
Dec. 3rd, 2007 06:07 am (UTC)
I'm not totally sure, but I can ask Erin about it in the morning. I know we made the appointment before the wedding, and than the movers came about a week later.

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&EAN=9780743255547&itm=2
knightswifee
Dec. 3rd, 2007 06:09 am (UTC)
I have my book somewhere in my house.. I can find it and send you mine if you'd like.. I won't be needing it now, with the Hubby out for Medical Reasons :)
knightswifee
Dec. 3rd, 2007 06:17 am (UTC)
How to be a Military Wife

What it Means

If you haven't seen it already, watch Army Wives.. such a great show.. can't wait for Seasons 2!!!!

http://www.tshlw.com/videos/cb/aw/aw.html


Also, army_girlfriend was very helpful :)
jennelise83
Dec. 4th, 2007 12:33 am (UTC)
I've belonged to army_girlfriend for awhile. Its gotten really quiet I've been catching up on army wives. I'm trying to figure out how to DL it to my Zune so I can take it to work with me. lol. Thanks for the Websites!!! Your probably going to be my lifeline while I prepare for this. lol.
ilovesun
Dec. 8th, 2007 01:36 pm (UTC)
Hey! You responded to a post I made in militarylove, and so I thought I'd check your journal out. I wanted to let you know that I was in the exact same situation. My fiance (at the time) and I were living in Ohio, and he got orders to be stationed in England. He left Ohio in March, and I went back to Seattle (where we're both from) to plan the wedding. He came back from England in July (2 days before the wedding) to get married, and then I joined him in England.

I guess what you need to do depends on where he goes. If he goes overseas, it's kinda more complicated.

In the Air Force, you're not allowed to schedule movers until after he has issued orders. I'm not sure how it is in the Army, but it's probably similar. If you have any specific questions about how to prepare for the move, let me know! Do you two live together now? If so, I'd recommend having the army move almost everything when he leaves, and just living out of a suticase or a few boxes before the wedding (it sucks, but it's much cheaper in the long run).

If you two don't live together, get as much of your stuff as you can over to his place before the movers get there so they will move your stuff too, and you wont have to worry about it after the wedding.
jennelise83
Dec. 9th, 2007 12:42 am (UTC)
No we don't live together now. Like we aren't even buying furniture or anything until after the wedding, probably near where he is stationed. Personally I'm not taking a whole lot with me. Just my clothes and my personal stuff. I am going to have him take some stuff with him when he goes. But since he'll still be living in the barracks I dunno how much room he'll even have left over. I'm worried more about wedding gifts and stuff like that. I've just heard that it can take up to three weeks to get a movers appointment and then another three weeks to get your stuff. He'll leave on orders in like March or April. And since we aren't getting married until August, I didn't know if he can schedule the movers before the wedding or if I need to have paperwork and all that jazz before it can be scheduled. This marrying into the military stuff it just so ridiculous. lol.

Wow. Didn't mean for this to become a novel. Thanks for checking out my journal!
i_control_me
Jan. 16th, 2008 02:16 pm (UTC)
Are you planning to live on or off post?

You can get your military ID issued from the closest military installation, at least for the Army, BUT he has to be with you when you do it. And it can't be done until after the wedding.

To be honest, my husband and I moved in together before we got married but since I didn't have much and we were planning to buy it all once we got an apartment (we live off post) we didn't bother with getting an appointment with movers. I super packed my car with all the things I was taking and that was basically the end of it. Anything left at my mom's or my grandmother's I've gone back and picked up in the interrum. While army movers are awesome because its free, when you have time constraints or an awkward situation its just easier to do it yourself.
i_control_me
Jan. 16th, 2008 02:18 pm (UTC)
Oh oh oh, and as far as the wedding gifts are concerned you can either ask your guests to send them to a predetermined location and pick them up later or ask your mom/dad/sister/brother/uncle/cousin to stash them for you until you're ready to pick them up or have them shipped to you and just pay whoever it is back for the shipping costs =D
jennelise83
Jan. 18th, 2008 11:16 am (UTC)
Thank you for all your advice. :-) I have to do some updating to my journal obviously. B/c most of this pot doesn't apply anymore since my fiance will be heading to Korea 3 weeks after our wedding. But a lot of it is good to keep in mind for when we prepare for our next duty station.
toughcookie
Jan. 16th, 2008 04:01 am (UTC)
Hey, you made a post in mil_wives, so I decided to check your journal out. :) I don't know if you've come across this list already, but wanted to pass along this PDF in case it's helpful: Checklist for New Military Spouses. Good luck!
jennelise83
Jan. 18th, 2008 11:16 am (UTC)
Thank you so much!
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